Signs & Signals of Immigration Marriage Fraud and My story of immigration

[newimmigrant]

Хотелось бы поделиться важной информацией с обладателями Грин Карты, которые собираются официально зарегистрировать отношения с человеком, который кажется 'идеальной кандидатурой" и пытается создать семью с обладателем ГК из благих побуждений (любовь, ребенок, счастливое будущее, благоустроенная жизнь и т.д)

По ходу я хотела бы рассказать свою историю эмиграции, которая кардинально изменила мою жизнь.

[newimmigrant]

Re: Signs & Signals of Immigration Marriage Fraud and My story of immigration

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Are you a victim of Immigration Marriage Fraud? Here you can learn the most common signs...

1. If the person you are in a relationship with tells you the exact same things that they want in their life. They are just parroting you. They know these values and dreams are important to you. They will tell you anything you want to hear, you will believe that you both have the same values and expectations in life.
2. If the person is hesitant to introduce you to new people as their spouse. Does not send or show photos of you together to friends and family, or add photos of you together as a married couple to personal online pages such as Myspace, Facebook, Hi5 etc.
3. When you visit them you always meet the same people, he/she doesn't introduce you to new people.
4. If they make up various excuses to be away from you as much as possible. Refuses to tell you where they going and when they be will back.
5. If they communicate with you and they tell you that they understand, but when you ask for something they play dumb or pretend they no longer understand you.
6. If they are hesitant to introduce you to other family members.
7. If in your relationship no one is asking you any questions or they are easily satisfied by your answers.
8. If they are telling you they are willing to be with you under any circumstance. They do not have any hesitation to relocate to a new country.
9. If you try to reach them at times that you think they should be available and they are not. They will make up excuses as to why you couldn't reach them. Such as: no calling card, cell phone broken, bad phone connection, etc.
10. If they are asking you to perform a traditional ceremony that is not necessary and will cost more money.
11. If they tell people they are leaving their country for other reasons and not because they have married someone, or, they seem to keep their intent to marry and their new marriage very quiet and do not seem willing to share the (supposed) happiness of it with others from their homeland or surrounding area.
12. If on your first visit with their family it seems like they have known you for a long time. They could be trying to fool you. It takes time to get to know someone. There is a difference with people being hospitable and trying to fool you.
13. He/she is not willing to teach you about their language, customs, religion or background. (If it is different from yours)
14. If the behavior of the person has changed once they left their country and came to your country. They seem like a different person.
15. If they were not demanding previously and they start to demand things when they get to your country or when you get married. They may start demanding things that you thought they didn't really care for.
16. If they don't show an interest in anything. When you suggest going places, doing things, involving themselves in your hobbies or activities, they really aren't interested.
17. If they are trying to stay away from you by making excuses that would not make sense.
18. If they are in your country and they start receiving an unusual number of phone calls. If they are on the phone and you walk into the room and they hang up the phone.
19. If they are eager to have all their documents in their possession, such as Permanent Resident card, SIN card and their passport. Or they keep asking when they will receive these cards.
20. If they are telling you that they will be somewhere and you find out they are not there and they start making excuses.
21. If they try to make most of their communication with others, such as phone calls, e-mail or letters away from you.
22. If they are not interested in things you may do together and they are eager to do things on their own.
23. If they tell you that they do not know anyone here and once they are here they have found a long lost friend.
24. If they tell you that they do know someone here or meet someone here from the same country and they try to spend as much time with them, staying over night or saying they have to take care of them.
25. If the person is not the same person that you have known and they are acting very different. They are telling you that you have changed and you are not the same person they knew. They start blaming you.
26. If they do not communicate with you and when you ask them, they tell you everything is fine. They seem very distant and their mind seems to be on other things. If they are upset, and when you try to comfort them they tell you to leave them alone or they demand time alone, and then use it against you in the future saying "you never help me or are there for me" or "you always leave me alone"
27. As husband or wife you want the best for you partner. You want them to get familiar with the new country and their surroundings. But they insist they need to work immediately, even if it's working illegally without proper work authorization. This could mean they are getting ready to put their plan into motion.
28. If your spouse shows very little or no interest in being intimate with you. But before they got here, intimacy wasn't a problem.
29. They are very secretive about their day, when you ask them questions they get upset and defensive. They lie about who they called on the phone, who they talked to, who they saw, who they were with, etc.
30. If they have family here and they spend a lot of time with them or want to visit them out of town for long periods of time.
31. If they don't know the color of your eyes after being in a supposed "serious relationship" or marriage, or mysteriously forget things about your appearance.
32. If they refuse to open a joint bank account, or refuse other joint interests. A refusal to co-mingle funds is a big sign.
33. If they refuse you access to their private account imformation.
34. If they refuse to take your last name, make excuses not to change their name, and they remove any references to his/her name if it includes your last name.
35. If they suddenly leave the marriage and the reasons you are given are extremely petty.
36. If they suddenly start to find new friends from their own country or surrounding areas, and are networking with these people, and spending more and more time with them. This is a very dangerous signal. They may be conspiring to find new ways to remain in the U.S. without you and the marriage.
37. If they have no problem leaving the marriage to stay with their new network of friends, sharing beds, co-habitating with strangers etc.
38. Meeting other people and failing to mention they are married. Easily exchanging phone numbers with strange people the first night they meet.
39. No wedding gift(s) from their family. If their family shows a lack of interest in the marriage, and lack of acknowledgment of it. This is another big sign.
40. If they find it easy to marry after only a short period of time knowing you, but find it hard to stand by you shortly after being married!!!!
41. If they do not take the marriage seriously and instead treat it like a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship.
42. If they show an extreme disinterest or lack of ability to compromise and sacrifice in the marriage.
43. If they keep photos of past boyfriends/girlfriends hidden in places unlikely to be found (ie: computer, hidden in a wallet, purse)
44. If they state "it's not about money", but become extremely upset and combative if they feel they are not getting what they think they deserve.
45. Even being married, they still demand to be "paid back" and need to recoup money given to their spouse.
46. If they refuse to compliment you or rarely say good things about you in front of other people.
47. If petty arguments become serious altercations, and it seems they are trying to provoke you into negative reactions.
48. If you have a strange feeling your spouse is trying to provoke you into becoming physical.
49. If they tell you they broke up with their boyfriend/girlfriend before coming here, they probably have no intent to return home and they find a way to stay here, and that way may be you!
50. If it seems suspicious that so many peope from foreign countries claim to be "single"!

[Boris8594]

Re: Signs & Signals of Immigration Marriage Fraud and My story of immigration

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Цитата из Вас:
По ходу я хотела бы рассказать свою историю эмиграции, которая кардинально изменила мою жизнь.

Так где же эта история?

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[Americanka]

Re: Signs & Signals of Immigration Marriage Fraud and My story of immigration

если бы кто-то раньше поделился бы здесь своим неудачным опытом,то надеюсь некоторым это помогло бы от недостаточно обдуманных шагов.

А где он - этот неудачный опыт? Это вот тот, который в пунктах? Или я что-то пропустила?

[Alexa222]

Re: Signs & Signals of Immigration Marriage Fraud and My story of immigration

судя по всему эти все советы адресованы скорее заморским женихам, ведь именно их используют наши скэмерши как билет в сказочную заграницу тем более и написано все по английски, скорее всего с сайта "черный список невест СНГ" есть такой и не один
вот например один сайт вообще про все виды скэма scams - report the scam here